Feeling connected – meeting your need for interaction

by Children, Families & Young People team | 18 Jan 2022


If you or your young people are feeling lonely, not feeling part of anything, needing lots of attention or doing things for a reaction, why don’t you try meeting your need for interaction by following these steps?


Meeting your need for interaction - community.

Spending time with others, particularly those we share something in common with, can help us to feel safe and secure and can make us feel like we belong. This is good for our wellbeing and helps us to feel safe and secure.

Three things you can do now to help with wellbeing:

  1. Become part of a group by thinking about things you enjoy doing, and finding people who also enjoy the same things. This could be choosing friends to be with, joining an organised group or chatting about things you have in common.
  2. Maybe start a group of your own. This could be just finding people who like similar things to you, or organising to meet with people you get on well with.
  3. Join in with local community events to feel part of a group with your family, such as litter picking or running.

Emotional Connection

Meeting your need for interaction - Emotional Connection.

Sharing an emotional connection with someone else is important for our mental health and wellbeing. We need someone in our lives that we can talk to and feel we are accepted for who we are.

Three things to do now to help bring you back to wellbeing:

  1. Notice who makes you feel good. Spend more time with people who make you feel good about yourself.
  2. Spend time with a pet, talking to them, training them or taking care of them.
  3. Spend quality time with someone who cares about you, doing something together. This could be something fun like a game, a walk, or doing a job together like the washing up!


Meeting your need for interaction - Attention.

We all need to give and receive the right amount of attention to keep us feeling positive and content. You might be told you are attention-seeking with your behaviour, but this is often because you are ‘attention-needing’. Attention is so important to humans that we might seek or accept negative attention when positive attention isn’t available, so it is important that we find it and share it in healthy ways.

Three things to do now to help bring you back into wellbeing:

  1. Exchange healthy attention with someone else- spend time together away from screens.
  2. Speak to a grown up about having more one-to-one time with them to chat and so something fun together.
  3. Find a way to give someone else attention- doing something with them or sending them a message or letter.

To find out more about how Suffolk Mind can help you and your young person, visit our EARLY Minds page.

by Children, Families & Young People team

Meet the Children, Families & Young People (CFYP) team:

Katie Hollis (right) is our CFYP Relationships Manager, and joined Suffolk Mind in April 2017. Prior to working for Suffolk Mind, she worked as a primary school teacher in a variety of schools across Suffolk and in the Middle East. “I made the decision to join Suffolk Mind because I was ready for a new challenge and passionate about improving mental health and wellbeing for children, families, and young people. Having also experienced poor mental health among my colleagues in schools, I wanted to work with a charity that’s mission was to make Suffolk the best place to talk about and take care of mental health.” Out of work Katie is a busy parent to three boys and spends lots of time stood at the side of soggy football pitches across the county.

Louise Harris (left) is our CFYP Training & Content Manager, while also training to become a Human Givens Psychotherapist. She has been with Suffolk Mind since early 2020 and was previously a primary school teacher and a children’s yoga teacher. Louise delivers CFYP training and develops course materials, and is growing the service into secondary schools, further education settings and family and community groups to cater for the need in mental health provision and education that has increased over the past few years. “I came to Suffolk Mind to use my skills to deliver our education programmes in schools, with the mission to make a real difference to the mental health of children and young people in Suffolk.” Louise is also a parent to two children who like to go on outdoor adventures and plays in a samba band in her spare time.

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