Feeling ‘I can’ – meeting your need for recognition

by Children, Families & Young People team | 18 Jan 2022


If you or your young people feel low in mood and have no motivation or feel as though nobody listens, why don’t you try meeting your need for recognition to help you to feel as though you are achieving?


Meeting your need for recognition - Achievement.

It is important to feel we are achieving things, stretching, learning and growing as a person. Achievements can be everyday tasks like helping to get the dishes washed after dinner or bigger milestones like completing something you have been working on.

Three things you can do now to help with wellbeing:

  1. Write yourself a list of things you would like to do, and see if you can tick them off as you go along.
  2. Do something for yourself that somebody normally does for you. This can help you to feel like you have achieved something by yourself.
  3. Think of things you are good at and set yourself small, achievable goals.


Meeting your need for recognition - Status.

We all need to feel valued and that our efforts and contributions are appreciated by other people. Feeling appreciated and recognised is important for our self-esteem and is connected to our sense of meaning and purpose.

Three things to do now to help bring you back to wellbeing:

  1. Recognise other people’s efforts when working in groups. When you give other people recognition for things that they have done, they will be more likely to do the same for you.
  2. Think about what people say you are good at, or a time they have recognised your efforts.
  3. Speak to grownups in your life about things that make you feel valued, and things that you do that are helpful. Can you do more of these things?

 Meaning and Purpose

Meeting your need for recognition - Meaning and Purpose.

We all need to take time out for ourselves, to step away from screens and have time to reflect and process our thoughts, learn from our experiences and make sense of the world around us.

Three things to do now to help bring you back into wellbeing:

Meaning and purpose is all about having motivation or a driving force behind the things that you do. Finding meaning and purpose gives us the bigger picture of why something is important, which helps to motivate us and gives us the ability to overcome challenging things.

Three things to do now to help bring you back into wellbeing:

  1. Feeling stretched and challenged by new things helps to give us meaning and purpose.
  2. Being connected to a wider community with a common goal helps us to see that we are part of something bigger, such as helping to look after the environment.
  3. Feeling that we are needed by others gives us lots of meaning and purpose, such as helping to feed pets or look after wildlife.

To find out more about how Suffolk Mind can help you and your young person, visit our EARLY Minds page.

by Children, Families & Young People team

Meet the Children, Families & Young People (CFYP) team:

Katie Hollis (right) is our CFYP Relationships Manager, and joined Suffolk Mind in April 2017. Prior to working for Suffolk Mind, she worked as a primary school teacher in a variety of schools across Suffolk and in the Middle East. “I made the decision to join Suffolk Mind because I was ready for a new challenge and passionate about improving mental health and wellbeing for children, families, and young people. Having also experienced poor mental health among my colleagues in schools, I wanted to work with a charity that’s mission was to make Suffolk the best place to talk about and take care of mental health.” Out of work Katie is a busy parent to three boys and spends lots of time stood at the side of soggy football pitches across the county.

Louise Harris (left) is our CFYP Training & Content Manager, while also training to become a Human Givens Psychotherapist. She has been with Suffolk Mind since early 2020 and was previously a primary school teacher and a children’s yoga teacher. Louise delivers CFYP training and develops course materials, and is growing the service into secondary schools, further education settings and family and community groups to cater for the need in mental health provision and education that has increased over the past few years. “I came to Suffolk Mind to use my skills to deliver our education programmes in schools, with the mission to make a real difference to the mental health of children and young people in Suffolk.” Louise is also a parent to two children who like to go on outdoor adventures and plays in a samba band in her spare time.

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